I ask people in their first session, why did you originally fall in love with this person? Why is it about them that drew you together? What’s really good about your marriage?
That way, they have some opportunity to refocus on the whole picture rather that just what’s wrong. And it’s really helpful to remember the good times, and to express things we appreciate about our partner rather than focus on our own negative judgements.
– Dr. Bonnie Comfort
Is long-term love still a worthwhile goal? How can you tell a relationship is heading towards separation and not just in a slump? What role does power play in relationship satisfaction?
Find out the answers to these questions and more in this week’s episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the psychotherapist and author, Dr Bonnie Comfort on The Ebb and Flow of Long-term Love.
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About Dr. Bonnie Comfort
Bonnie Comfort has been a practicing psychologist for 30 years. She has an MSW from the University of Manitoba and a PhD in psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology Los Angeles. Her novel, “Denial,” a psychological thriller from Simon & Schuster, was published in eight countries and translated into five languages.
As an expert on marital therapy, she has been a guest multiple times on podcasts about marriage and has taken extensive workshops with marital and sex experts like Terrence Real, David Schnarch, John Gottman, and Marty Klein. She currently lives in Portland, Oregon, with her long-time partner, Douglas Covey, MD.
Her newest book is, Staying Married is the Hardest Part: A Memoir of Passion, Secrets, and Sacrifice.
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- https://www.linkedin.com/in/bonnie-comfort-864b10b/
- https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/220213880-staying-married-is-the-hardest-part
- https://www.amazon.com/Staying-Married-Hardest-Bonnie-Comfort/dp/1647429447
- https://bookshop.org/p/books/staying-married-is-the-hardest-part-bonnie-comfort/c9922f6fdc74bbed
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