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Ep 134: Helping High-Conflict Couples with Jennine Estes Powell, LMFT and Jacqueline Wielick, LMFT
What we want to do is really find effective and efficient ways to bring up concerns that draws your partner close, and show up for each other in difficult moments. It's all about how to communicate in a way that is not guarded and defensive. - Jennine Estes Powell,...
Ep 133: Security After Separation with Aurisha Smolarski, LMFT
One of the key things that I always tell my co-parents is: being with is enough. Even if you have nothing to say or when you're kid is having a fit. Just be with them, calmly and quietly. Then your child will realize that their parent can handle them. They have a...
Ep 132: Love Hacks with Kelli Miller
Positive behavior begets positive behavior. So if your partner is seeing that you are being accountable and being kinder, by default, they start doing that too. If we're kind to our partner, they'll be kind to us. If we are stonewalling them, they'll get angry. What...
Ep 131: Recovering from Gaslighting with Dr. Amelia Kelley
What is gaslighting, and why has it become such a popular term? What should you do if you realize you are being gaslit? What’s the path to recovery? Find out the answers to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host...
Ep 130: How to Have Healthy Conflict with Lisa Gray
Culturally, we have this idea that if we fall in love with someone and we really love them, that will be enough and love will carry us through. That's a great fantasy, but it's not the reality. Loving someone comes naturally, but having a good relationship is a skill....
Ep 129: Daring to Feel with Alexandra Roxo
Entering into the path of love is essentially investigating all places in your being that are not love. That means looking at all those fearful thoughts, doubts, insecurities, hidden traumas, and wounds. This path of the heart is one of entering in; it involves...
Ep 128: The Energy of Love with Sherianna Boyle
Love is a university energy that unites us all, it is the spirit of acceptance, the wisdom of letting go, the art of receiving understanding, and the beholder of grace. Getting in touch with this universal love will set you free from both your deepest fears and your...
Ep 127: Falling in Love Forever with Dr. Michael and Dr. Barbara Grossman
Is it possible to fall in love forever? What's happening biochemically when we fall in love? Why should we give up all complaints in our relationship? Find out the answers to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host...
Ep 126: Being Enough as We Are with Scott Stabile
Love is an energy. It is a pure positive force in our world. Whenever we come from that place of love, we are the most at home and the most whole. - Scott Stabile What does self-love look like? How might we accept ourselves just as we are? Will unconditional love...
Ep 125: Loving Every Day with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
We make changes in micro-steps. People think that they'll go to therapy and be given the insight to these huge shifts in their lives, but it doesn't work that way. It's making one degree of shift and celebrating the hell out of it, it's a little bit of work every day....
Ep 124: Self-Empowerment in Family Systems with Elaine Carney Gibson
For the individual healing process, what's more important than the experience itself is the meaning they gave to it. With that meaning, how do they think and feel about themselves? It's important to help indiviudals get a new perspective on their experience, that will...
Ep 123: Multiamory with Jase Lindgren, Dedeker Winston and Emily Sotelo Matlack
What is multiamory? How can the "triforce of communication" help our relationships? What tools work for all relationships, no matter the style? Find out the answers to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach...
Ep 122: Five Secrets to a Great Relationship with Dr. Mary Giuffra
One of the biggest complaints in marriage is about boredom. And boredom is because people aren't growing, there's no other reason. - Dr. Mary Giuffra What is co-regulation? What does a more loving brain look like? Why is space necessary for closeness? Find out the...
Ep 121: The Eloquence of Silence with Thomas Moore
As people we are both spiritual and psychological. We have soul and spirit in our makeup. Soul tends to be downward into our daily life, and our spirit is always transcending. We can imagine bigger worlds of angels, divine figures, and infinity. These are wonderful...
Ep 120: Spark Change with Jennie Lee
Change is hard. No doubt about it. It requires intentionality, it requires self-discipline. It's a process, so we have to be compassionate with ourselves wherever we are. We can only do as much as we can do in any given moment. We also have to give ourselves a lot of...
Ep 119: Conscious Uncoupling with Katherine Woodward Thomas
Love grows. We literally are generating our lives from the consciousness that we are centered in, and we have to become self-aware in where we are centered,when we are navigating our relationships. - Katherine Woodward Thomas What gets in the way of finding healthy...
Ep 118: The Importance of Boundaries with Karen McMahon
We are responsible for everything we think, feel, and do. We can't control another person, but we can change our behavior and express our boundaries in a clear and nonjudgmental way. And it's very empowering. - Karen McMahon What is a boundary? Why are they so...
Ep 117: Rediscovering Your Body with Tara Galeano
There's a powerful thing about the body: it's only ever in the present moment. I work a lot with people who are struggling with mood disorders like anxiety and depression. And anxiety brings us into the future, depression is about the past, but the body is only ever...
Ep 116: Reimagining Love with Shawn Haywood, Ph.D
For decades I tried to get love. It took me a long time to realize I have to live for love of myself. First and foremost, before I can really make a contribution to anyone else in a meaningful way. Otherwise I live this life trying to get, which isn't fun. It's very...
Ep 115: How to Connect Without Fighting with Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill
It may sound absurd, but the source of all conflict is emotion. It has nothing to do with the logistics. It has nothing to do with what is happening, it's the emotion attached to whatever is happening. - Dr Glenn Hill There was a lot of damage done and trauma from our...
Ep 114: Love in Psychotherapy with Silvia Dutchevici
Unfortunately patriarchy, consumer culture, all these things affect couples in a negative way. You may think it doesn't affect you but it's about all of us. We live in this society and learn these values and ideologies about how we should be in the world. We think we...
Ep 113: Communication for Connection with Emily Gough
I have a framework that I teach around connection. And it's the four C's of connection: curiosity, compassion, communication, and courage. And the compassion element is the one I see the most lacking. When I see a lot of disconnection, like those nasty comments you...
Ep 112: Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life with Bruce Chalmer
The overall chief skill of intimacy is to tolerate anxiety, rather than freak out about it. This requires practice all on its own. You have to be willing to entertain possibilities that you haven't entertained before. That willingness is what keeps a long term...
Ep 111: Caregiving, Love, and Aging with Daniella Marchick
It's challenging. Our relationship to love and partnership has to be fluid and dynamic because life is fluid and dynamic. So for many people the greatest showing of love and commitment is to stick with someone throughout the different challenges one faces. - Daniella...
Ep 110: Preparing for the Dating Jungle with Tami Kiekhaefer
Dating is a jungle because there's so many things you need to learn about it to survive. You have to be prepared, which means knowing who you are internally. You need to know what your strengths and what your weaknesses are. You also have to know what you're looking...