The rebuilding process has to do with re-creating trust, where you have to say, “I am here for you, you are the most important to me, and I’m going to honor us.” over and over and over again.
And the timeline completely depends on the willingness of the participants to heal and grow from the process. If the betrayer is willing to take responsibility and be more open and transparent, and the betrayee is able to make meaning from the situation, an affair doesn’t have to mean the relationship is over.
– Jennifer Lehr, MFT
Why do we betray the ones we love? How can we rebuild trust after betrayal? How can a fractured couple best repair their relationship?
Find out in this week’s episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews Marriage and Family Therapist, Jennifer Lehr on Rebuilding after Betrayal.
For the transcript of this episode, click here.
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about Jennifer Lehr, MFT
In her younger years, Jennifer did not have the skills needed to have a successful relationship. Like many others, Jennifer grew up in a family with difficult family dynamics. She changed that by spending years working on her own issues, educating herself as well as studying and training as a couples therapist and working with couples. Jennifer knew that if she could change her relationship ability from poor to excellent, anybody could.
In 2009, she began writing WeConcile a revolutionary do-it-yourself online educational application that helps couples improve trust, intimacy, safety and connection through established relationship science. She created WeConcile to help couples get free from pain and disconnection, and to again find happiness in marriage. Now, Jennifer Lehr is on a mission to create a world filled with connection instead of conflict. She specializes in educating couples on the relationship skills they need to build a solid, connected and loving partnership. As a marriage and family therapist for nearly 20 years, she uses her knowledge and advanced training in many couples’ modalities to help others succeed in their marriage.
Jennifer is a regular contributor to many online publications as well as her blogs, sharing her experience and expertise to help people improve their lives and relationships. She also writes and talks about her journey from a difficult relational beginning to creating a beautiful relationship with her husband, Mike.
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Links from the show
- The Types of Relationship Betrayal You Should Really Be Aware Of
- 8 Reasons Why We Hurt The Ones We Love The Most
- Building Secure Attachment with Carista Luminare, PhD
- Hurt People, Hurt People
- Imago Therapy for Relationships
- Amygdala Hijack: When Emotion Takes Over
- When Promises Become Lies
- when an affair hits home part II: for the betrayed – detective vs. investigative questions
- What Percentage of Marriages Survive Infidelity?
- Esther Perel’s The State of Affairs
- Stirring Things Up – Finding Meaning in the Affair
- Some people consistently push away the people they love — here’s why
- Come Here, Go Away: The Dynamics of Fearful Attachment
- WeConcile Free Relationship Quiz
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