There’s plenty of things to argue about, but raising the volume and frequency of the arguments NEVER gets you the appreciation and respect that you are looking for.
And unfortunately the more time you spend trying to tell the person that they’re no good, the more that is all you can see.“
– Dr. Phil Lee
What tools should every relationship have in their toolbox? Why do couples keep getting into the same arguments again and again? What can couples do to break out of criticism?
Find out in this week’s episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews therapist, author, and psychiatric consultant, Dr. Phil Lee about Ending Argument Addiction.
For the transcript of this episode, click here.
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about Dr. Phil Lee
Dr. Phil Lee is the Co-head of Couples Therapy at Weill Cornell Medical Center of New York Presbyterian Hospital in Manhattan. He teaches and supervises all psychiatry residents in the practice of marital and couples therapy.
With numerous publications, seminars, podcasts, and media appearances to his credit, Dr Lee is an expert in marital therapy. The new book Argument Addiction, authored by Dr Lee and Dr Rudolph is now available.
In his private practice on the Upper East Side of Manhattan and in Greenwich, CT, he specializes in helping patients with challenges in their personal and professional relationships; anxiety or depression, performance issues at work and in sports and the arts. With over 30 years of experience, Dr. Lee is focused on results: feeling happier, having stronger relationships, and performing your best at work and play.
Dr. Lee is the psychiatric consultant for the best selling coffee table books, The Mind and The Brain. His most recent book Argument Addiction — why arguments are lethal, how to stop them and start winning happiness and marital satisfaction is available on Amazon.
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Links from the show
- Alain de Botton
- John Gottman’s The Four Horseman
- How to Fight Smarter: Soften Your Start-Up
- We Are in a Judgment Epidemic and No One Is Talking About It
- Philip Roth
- Every New Relationship Should Know This is Going to Happen
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