Ninety-percent of the couples I work with say that their goal for therapy is not to fight, not to feel angry, not to feel stressed, depressed, anxious or hopeless.
But once you identify your positive goals, rather than the negative ones, you are ahead of the curve. It’s important to know where you are going, for example towards more peace, love, joy, and connection.
You don’t get to New York from California by typing into your GPS, ‘anywhere but California.’“
– Alicia Muñoz
What does it mean to cultivate a beginner’s mind with our partner? How do we balance being true to ourselves with flexibility and being open to our partner’s influence? What are some secret keys we use to improve our communication?
Find out in this week’s episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews counselor, couples therapist and author Alicia Muñoz on Secret Keys to Good Communication.
For the transcript of this episode, click here.
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about Alicia Muñoz
Alicia Muñoz is I’m a licensed professional counselor and a certified couples therapist with training in Imago Therapy, CBT, and Dyanmic Pyschotherapy.
She has worked in a wide array of clinical settings over the past fourteen years, including private clinics, New York City’s Bellevue Hospital, and private practice.
She is the author of “No More Fighting,” “A Year of Us,” and her most recent work is, The Couple’s Quiz Book: 350 Fun Questions to Energize Your Relationship.
Stay connected with Alicia Muñoz:
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Links from the show
- The Dalai Lama
- Happiness is inevitable but suffering is optional
- Imago Relationship Therapy
- My Spouse will Not Go to Marriage Counseling
- Terry Real, “Enlightened Self-Interest is remembering that it’s in your interest to do what needs to be done to make your relationship work.”
- Mark Nepo, “To listen is to continually give up all expectation and to give our attention, completely and freshly, to what is before us, not really knowing what we will hear or what that will mean. In the practice of our days, to listen is to lean in, softly, with a willingness to be changed by what we hear.”
- Shoshin, a word from Zen Buddhism meaning “beginner’s mind.”
- The ideal age to get married, with the least likelihood of divorce in the first five years, is 28 to 32
- Brene Brown, “Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor – the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.”
- Vipassana Meditation
- 5 Ways to Make Small Gestures Count in Your Marriage
- Marital Conflicts: Don’t Sweep Them Under The Rug
- How to Stop Trying to Keep Up with “the Joneses”
- How Much of Communication Is Nonverbal?
- The Sacred Pause – Tara Brach
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