There are four fundamental question we can seek to answer for our partner: Am I safe? Am I loved? Am I enough? And do I matter?
These questions are at the root of our wounding. We come into this world as little babies, and we look around and ask these question. And they are answered by our families, and extended communities, and this is where we get our wounds from.
So it’s not just that a giving a gift feels good. It’s you telling your partner that they matter. And telling our partners that they are safe, loved, and enough.
– Lair Torrent
What does it mean to look at love as a practice? Why is mindfulness important in relationships? What does it mean to choose our partner?
Find out in this week’s episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the therapist and author Lair Torrent on The Practice of Love.
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About Lair Torrent
Lair Torrent is a clinically trained and licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. He earned his Masters degree from Mercy College where he was mentored by renowned Marriage and Family Therapist, Dr. Evan Imber-Black. He was trained in Eastern psychology and thought at The Helix Training program, a rigorous 4 year multi-discipline training located in NYC.
Lair has been resourced/interviewed by NPR, the New York Times, and Rolling Stone magazine for his expertise and work in couples and individual counseling. He sees clients individually, as couples or as groups in his private practice in Charleston, SC or via Skype and FaceTime, all over the world. The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts is his first book, out from Rowman & Littlefield in February 2022.
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