I would love to see our culture shift to there being a wide variety of ways that we celebrate people, the milestones in their life, and their choices in how they want to have love show up in their life.
Because we start with this default that everyone should want to be in a life long partnership, to be monogamous parents, and to want to have children. Which puts so much pressure on all of us to go after these things, rather than to be true to ourselves and think about what we really want.
And a lot of people who are stuck do not want compulsory monogamy, heterosexuality, or parenthood, and that’s ok. We should have the freedom that comes from understanding ourselves and exploring our desires without judgement or shame.
– Valerie DiLuggo
What ingredients are in the “secret sauce” for happy and fulfilling relationships? How can we date smarter, not harder? What are some of the most common mistakes people make in looking for love?
Find out in this week’s episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the Marriage and Family Therapist and Dating and Relationship coach Valerie DiLuggo on Getting out of the single rut.
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About Valerie DiLuggo
Valerie DiLuggo is a Marriage and Family Therapist and a Dating and Relationship coach. She is passionate about helping people love and be loved. She helps women date in the patriarchy and helps couples learn practical & actionable relationship skills so their relationships flourish.
She describes herself as the ‘dating doula’ or the ‘fairy godmother you meet along the and Valerie’s talks and teachings are all colored with humor and vulnerability. She is the founder of the “So this is love” Club, an online community which features Valerie’s “Find Love Programs” such as “Reset yourself for love” and “mastering the dating game.”
Stayed connected with Valerie DiLuggo:
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/valerie-diluggo-alameda-ca/236292
- www.sothisislove.club
- https://www.instagram.com/sothisislove.club/
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